Part of this is being a 6-year-old girl, and part of it is being a 6-year-old girl who has firsthand experience of when marriage doesn’t work out.
She can’t wait for the wedding, but it’s also stirring up a lot of thoughts and questions on marriage.
One day, Abby and I were talking about how she’ll walk down the aisle and spread rose petals as she walks.
“But Bailey isn’t old enough to do that, so someone will hold her,” I said.
“Just someone she feels comfortable with.”
Abby nodded but then got a very concerned look on her face.
“Are you gonna get in trouble for having a baby before you got married?”
2. A Rehearsal, Of Sorts
Last weekend, we were standing on our back deck trying to figure out a good place for the ceremony.
We back right up to a greenbelt so you can think of our “yard” as more of a “field of snakes and certain death.”
Ty and I stood in one spot on the deck, facing each other.
I asked: “Abby, how do we look from where you’re standing? Can you see us well?”
Abby tilted her head a little to one side. “Yeah, that looks good.”
Then an impish grin spread across her face. “You’re gonna have to kiss in front of everyone!”
Ty and I laughed. “That’s true.”
“Won’t you be embarrassed?”
I took Abby to the tailor with me to try on my dress. It was Abby’s first time to see me in the dress.
“What do you think?” I asked.
Abby smiled big. “It’s pretty.”
“You know, I’m going to keep this dress, and one day if you want you can get married in it. Would you like that?”
She smiled even bigger. “Yes.”
Then her face fell.
“What’s wrong?” I asked.
“I’m worried I’ll never find the right person to marry.”
(This one may be my fault – thanks to 12 Signs That You’re in Love – A Letter to My Daughter. But at least I got the point across?)
4. How You Know
The girls and I ran errands last Saturday to pick up ingredients for some recipes we’d be testing for the reception – like the Lemon Drop Cake from the Baked cookbook. (For the record, it is definitely a keeper. We polished off the whole cake in two days.)
On our way to the grocery store, I asked: “Can you believe we’re getting married just two weeks from today?”
“Well, not you and me,” Abby said.
I laughed. “No, I mean me and Ty.”
Abby was quiet for a few seconds. Then: “How do you know Ty really loves you?”
“Well…I just do.”
“Sometimes you might think someone loves you, but actually they don’t.”
5. The Proposal
Last week at bedtime, I was sitting on the edge of Abby’s bed. The Master Bedtime Staller was in top form.
“When Ty asked you to marry him, did he get down on one knee?”
“Yes,” I said.
“What did he say?”
I knew she was stalling, but how can you pass up an opportunity to tell a happy story like that?
So I told her.
“It was February, and I was 7 months pregnant with Bailey. We were in New York City in our hotel room, and we’d just finished getting dressed to go out to dinner.”
“You weren’t dressed yet, and it was dinnertime? That’s funny!”
I laughed. “No, no – we changed into nicer clothes because we were going to a nice restaurant.”
“Oh,” she said.
“One of our favorite songs was playing on the stereo – You Make Me Happy. We were about to walk out the door when Ty walked up and kissed me.”
Abby giggled. A normal reaction from her when kissing is involved.
“Then he said, ‘I love you. A lot a lot.’ And I smiled. He said, ‘I don’t think you understand.’ He picked up my hand and kissed it. Then he kissed my ring finger.”
I wiggled my ring finger to Abby.
“He said, ‘This finger looks a little lonely.’ Then he got down on one knee and said, ‘Will you be my wife?’”
I stood up and bent to kiss her good night.
“Well, what did you say?” she asked.
“I said yes, silly!”
I kissed her and stood up to leave.
I turned back.
“Why did he say all that stuff?”
“What do you mean?”
“Why didn’t he just say, ‘Will you marry me?’”
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